Is your marriage making you sick?

You eat right. You exercise. You get an annual physical. You probably think you''re doing everything you can to stay healthy.

正常的饮食，做些运动，还参加年度体检，也许你觉得，为了保持健康你做了所有力所能及的事情。
 

But here''s one more thing you need to do: Learn how to argue well with your spouse.
但是，还有一件事需要你去做，那就是学习怎么样与你的配偶更适当的争执。

A new study from Ohio State University shows just how physically harmful it can be to argue the wrong way. In the study， 37 married couples were brought into a hospital research lab， and a tiny vacuum device gave them eight 8-mm blisters on their forearms. Each couple was then videotaped while having conversations， and researchers graded them on their communication skills， noting who had distressing or hostile styles of communicating.
来自俄亥俄州立大学的新研究显示，失当的沟通方式对身体是非常有害的。在这项研究中，37对已婚夫妇被带入医院的研究实验室，通过一个小小的真空装置，在他们的前臂安放8个8毫米的浮泡。每对夫妻谈话期间，将会被录像记录，然后研究人员根据他们的沟通技巧来评定，并留意那些不愉快的和敌对的沟通方式。

After 12 days， the researchers noticed that the blisters healed faster on the couples who had more positive communication styles， and the blisters healed the slowest on the couples with more negative styles.
12天以后，研究人员发现，那些浮泡愈合快的夫妇，往往有着积极的沟通方式，而那些浮泡愈合的最慢的夫妇，则更多是使用了一些消极的方式。
Why would physical wounds heal more quickly among the better communicators? The researchers at Ohio State who did the study think it might have something to do with oxytocin.
为什么那些善于沟通的人身体的创伤愈合的更快呢？俄亥俄州方面的研究人员认为这与催产素有关。

"Oxytocin is a protective hormone，" says Janice Kiecolt-Glaser， the lead author of the study， who noted that the better communicators in her study -- the ones whose wounds healed the fastest -- had the highest levels of oxytocin in their blood.
该项研究的主要负责人贾尼斯认为，催产素是一种保护性的荷尔蒙，那些较善于交流的人，伤口愈合的最快的人，血液中的催产素含量最高。

The study was recently published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology.
这项研究成果最近发表在精神神经内分泌学杂志上。

There are certainly many examples of high-profile troubled marriages. For example， actor Charlie Sheen was arrested in connection with an argument he had with his wife last Christmas Day; a court hearing on the case was delayed Monday. But husbands and wives don''t always make the connection that stressful marriages can actually harm your physical health.
当然了，还是有很多大人物为婚姻所困扰的例子。例如，演员查理希恩因为在去年圣诞节与妻子的一次争吵而被拘留，关于此案的法庭听证会推迟到周一。然而，丈夫和妻子并没有意识到，紧张的婚姻关系有损身体健康。
"People get very surprised when they hear that marital stress is actually worse for your health than workplace stress，" says Tara Parker-Pope， author of "For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage."
For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage 的作者塔拉说，“当得知婚姻压力比工作压力更有损身体健康时，很多人感到惊讶。”

Overall， couples with more marital stress have worse immune function and higher blood pressure and heart rates， according to Debra Umberson， a professor of sociology at the University of Texas， who studies couples and stress.
得克萨斯大学的社会学教授恩伯森，从事夫妻关系和压力的研究，他认为，总的来讲，婚姻中压力太多的夫妇免疫功能较差，血压和心率都较高。

"Marital stress is so pernicious because it''s chronic， long-term， and you can''t get away from it，" she says "You''re having these problems day in and day out year after year， decade after decade."
她说：“婚姻压力的危害是很大的，因为它是惯性的，长期的，你不能将它摆脱，这些问题会困扰着你，一天又一天，一年又一年，10年再10年。”

While both sexes suffer， some， but not all， studies show women suffer more physical effects from a bad marriage than men， Umberson adds.
她还补充到，尽管男女双方都深受其害，但是也有研究表明，一个不幸的婚姻会给妇女带来更多的身体危害。

Of course， having a happy marriage or relationship is easier said than done. Here are some tips for limiting marital stress to make you happier and physically healthier.
当然，有一个幸福的婚姻又谈何容易。这里有一些建议，可以用来控制婚姻压力，让你更快乐，更健康。